Dominic J. Sebastiani

March 29, 1932 - December 8, 2020

Dominic J. Sebastiani, 88, made his transition on the evening of December 8th, 2020. That afternoon, he got to spend time with his daughter, Mary, and that evening -- with his granddaughter, Jennifer. He is survived by his children and children-in-law: Elizabeth (Steve), Mary (Jim), Michael, and John (Karla); grandchildren: Jennifer, Alexander, Kyle (Laura), Kevin (Dijana), and Lisa (Dan); great-grandchildren: Kaleb, Kamryn, Abigail, and Sadie; and siblings: Nancy and Tito. He has now joined his grandson: Christopher; his parents: Bernardino and Adelaide; his siblings: Josephine, Mary, Anna, Lena, Ben, and Celia; and countless friends and fellow servicemen in the great beyond.

Retired police officer. Navy veteran. Masterful chef. Dom was an idea man & a dreamer, an artist & a storyteller. He was a man who always had big plans and loved to talk about them; he wanted to write a book about Tennessee walking horses, to own a boat, to have his own vegetable garden... Dom was quite the character. He liked a good soup, a good cigar, and a good coincidence. An instigator with a twinkle in his eye -- he knew how to rile someone up, but also how to make them laugh till they cried. The side of his pointer finger tapping against his lips meant he was deep in thought; a scrunched-up face meant "no" was the answer to whatever question you had just asked him. If Dom was going out into the world, his USS Midway hat went on top of his head.

Libraries, old westerns, classic Sherlock Holmes, and sipping on a cuppa coffee while cracking the case of the current episode of a detective show program were some of Dom's favorite things. He enjoyed a beautiful piece of art and looking behind the scenes of moviemaking, and his eyes perked up at the offering of a doughnut, a cannoli, or a yummy looking piece of pie. Sitting together at our kitchen table eating pie and singing along to a particular John Gary record had become one of my favorite things in return. If I listen closely, I can still hear the sound of him shuffling his feet or rubbing his hands together. ...amazing how little things like that can be so beautifully poignant.

When it came to music, Dom had his old-reliables -- crooners like Dean Martin, Rex Allen, Al Martino, and John Gary. Sometimes he'd throw on some Elvis or Willie Nelson; other times, he'd throw on a jazzy record or some opera to shake things up. A couple years ago, he started expanding his musical horizons. He discovered he was not a fan of Queen, had mixed feelings about Chicago, and fell hard-and-fast for The Eagles; from then on, he would refer to them as "my rock-n-roll." He had discovered a new delight in his life: new music and watching music programs/concerts/variety shows/musician biographies on TV. He had surprised himself with how much he enjoyed these things and wondered why he'd waited so long to find them.

When I was visiting with my grandfather on what would be that last evening, he'd asked me to get The Eagles playing for him. He made a joke when I almost cracked my head on his lamp moving the CD player closer to him, and I watched as "his rock-n-roll" seemed to have almost a lullaby effect on him. Us together, The Eagles playing, exchanging "I love yous " -- talk about a snapshot moment. Dom and I weren't just grandfather-granddaughter; we were truly buddies. What an incredible gift that has been, and will continue to be, for me and my life.

During my mother's visit with her dad on what would be that last afternoon, she told him: "Now remember: no wild parties while I'm gone." They both laughed, and with that twinkle in his eye -- he pointed up and told her: "Oh, I'm going to a wild party." And they both smiled.

I don't think the open road ever stopped calling out to my grandfather. And now, he never again has to ignore its sweet song. Here's to your ultimate freedom and endless adventures, Gumpa! And as you'd always say: take it easy, kid; I'll see ya.

 The funeral service will be held on Saturday, December 19th at 10:30am at St. Patrick's Catholic Church (6N491 Crane Road St. Charles, IL 60175). Prior to the mass, a wake will be held from 9:00am - 10:00am at the Moss-Norris Funeral Home (100 South Third Street, St. Charles, IL 60174). Following the mass, we will be at the Queen of Heaven Cemetery (1400 South Wolf Road, Hillside, IL 60162) to follow Dom's wishes, and lay him to rest near his family.

 Flowers and plants are always welcome, and donations can be made to organizations that support veterans, such as: AMVETS (American Veterans --, and the Gary Sinise Foundation (

 Arrangements entrusted to Moss Family Funeral Home St. Charles 630-584-2000 or

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